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I had not felt movement of my baby for 24 hours when being admitted into the hospital to be induced. This was a very stressfull and worrying time for me and my husband. After 2 days of having medication to bring on my labour and constantly being hooked up to a machine that checks my babies heartbeat I was to be examined yet again to see if my waters could be broken. A dr came to do this and before doing so proceeded to tell me I was that over weight I wasn't going to live to see my grandchildren and I really should sort myself out as I had a bmi of 40 before even getting pregnant( which was totally untrue) I told them to check my notes as it was actually signifficantly lower than that and I was a low risk pregnancy they then told me I should be high risk because of how big I am and because of my size my labour would be a lot harder which petrified me even more than I already was. They then looked at me and said labour does hurt u know like I was stupid they said I was really going to struggle with it because of my weight. They then had to examin me and at this point I felt completeley humiliated and uncontrolable sobbing they then said they could break my waters which they did but I went into labour sobbing over what they had said to me it was a complete insult and what should have been a happy time giving birth to my child was turned into a stressfull and upsetting time not only did they cause me distress but me being that upset was no good for my unborn child. I went into the friarage with hopes of being looked after and put at ease that my baby was safe and left feeling let down and insulted. This has had a knock on effect with post natal depression and I feel completley let down.

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Response from Friarage Hospital Site

Good afternoon

Thank you for your feedback. We are sorry you have cause for concern regarding your admission to the Friarage Hospital for the birth of your baby, and we would like to investigate this further.

I should be grateful therefore if you would contact the Patient Relations Department on 01642 854500 at your earlist convenience, so we can discuss your concerns further and the options available to take them forward.

Kind Regards

Patient Relations

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