"I wouldn't have my second baby here"
About: Darent Valley Hospital Darent Valley Hospital Dartford DA2 8DA
I had my first baby a few weeks ago in this hospital. Every single staff member was amazing except one midwife who ruined my first birth experience. At 10.30 pm my waters broke at home, although I had no contractions I went in to confirm that my waters had broken. Once that had been confirmed I was booked in for induction and sent home. By the time we arrived home my contractions were every 2 mins and 40 seconds long, and so painful I couldn't walk without getting down on all fours every few steps. So I went back in and at 2 am I was 2 cm... I met a wonderful midwife who even though I wasn't in active labour didn't send me home because I had been checked twice since my waters broke and she wanted to avoid infection. So they put me in Cedar ward to sleep and gave me pethidine. She said when I was 5 cm I could go back to Aspen and have the water birth I had wanted all my pregancy with just gas and air. While in Cedar ward I was under a different midwife, who just ignored me. The pethidine had no effect. So I was allowed to have a normal bath to help the pain. This also did nothing. I was contracting every 2 mins now for a min each time. So when I sent my partner out to tell her I felt the need to push. She came in and said she could check me till half 7 because of infection and that being my first baby there was no way I was in active labour...(but i was and i should have been on gas and air and having my water birth) she gave me paracetamol and codeine. This had no effect either, because I was in active labour. So we waited till half 7 while the midwife came in again and agian to check on a lady across from my bed an never even once did the mid wife look in my direction while I tried to force myself to stop pushing and my parner rubbed my back until I brusied because that was the inly thing that took the edge of each contraction. At half 8 another midwife came in read my contraction print out looked surprised and said oh wow these are quite strong I better tell her about this. An hour after that still no midwife had checked me. For the last hour i was too afraid to let my partner out of the room because he was all I had, we didnt know about the the buzzer by the bed, that was never explained. So at half nine my partner went out and got a midwife. She said sorry she didnt know they had just changed shifts...so that midwife had ignored me for hours thaen went home without checking me and without telling anyone I was there. So this new midwife came in to check me, by now I was crying and couldn't spread my legs or take off my pants. I was nine cm. it was too late for a water bith I had to be rushed on a bed to delivery suite. There i met a wonderful midwife would allowed me gas and air and helped me push my baby out. However it did take another hour and half as i was so tired from the pain of the last night. If i ever have another child I wouldn't have it in hospital...i would be too afraid of being ignored.