"Maternity "

I was hospital overall for overall 5 days whilst having my son. I was sent in for induction. The induction process was not pleasant. Although some of Hca and midwife’s we’re lovely there was some not so much or they didn’t believe how much pain you were in. Whilst I staying on the ward a young girl was in labour and ended up being rushed to l&d they kept telling her nothing was happening! When I eventually got up to l&d myself the midwife’s there were lovely but I was in labour for 22 hours, I felt like no one considered my birth plan I wanted to try aromatherapy and lights dimmed that wasn’t offered (I was in too much pain and tired to even discuss this at the time) I had to have the hormone drip which kept getting switched on and off due to having bad reactions. And I was servilely dehydrated. (My wee was almost black) It took the last midwife to mention that the previous one should of noticed and gave me more fluids via IV. after 3 different midwife’s looking after me, eventually I was asked if I would like a section due to my son being too sleepy and labour being too long. In the section something ended up landing on my face from above and no one apologised and in recovery but wasn’t offered skin to skin which broke my heart as I really wanted that and to try breastfeeding. When i moved onto m1-m2

Ward I felt just plonked there, me and my partner didn’t have a clue what to do next. No one came to offer support for breast feeding or still skin to skin. (even through they a big on it) so only thing I felt like I could do was then start to bottle feed so husband could do it as I couldn’t move. No one removed the cannula tubes or emptied my catheter until asked. When they came to remove all that and get you to move around I was in absolute agony and couldn’t stand I felt like no one believed me. Even one midwife or Hca not sure but was very rude to my partner for trying to help me on the bed she just watched instead of helping and pretty much shouted at him for ‘doing it wrong’. I felt very upset and judged for how I felt. No one advised me on what to do for a c section recovery as such and what to expect. I believe the overall induction process and then until leaving has left me with some post natal depression and interfered with the initial bonding with my new baby. I know some of the experience is no fault of anyone and is unfortunately just birth but overall I felt like my feelings and wants were disregarded and I didn’t matter. The maternity ward after felt like they just wanted you gone. After major surgery and being in there for 5 days I was sent home with no pain relief and was back home just over 24 hours after. Just frustrating as other women who have had similar experience to myself did get skin to skin and were able to try breastfeeding so I feel like it just depends on the midwife on the day? Overall I feel my experience wasn’t anything to be desired and left me struggling mentally.