"Lack of kidney cancer treatment "

My father has been diagnosed with kidney cancer, he is 83 years old and my mother is 78. I accompanied them on their initial appointment for a test on his prostrate and scan on his kidneys. When they returned home they received a telephone call asking them to attend the hospital again the next day to see the consultant. I live 1 hour away, so phoned the hospital to see if they were getting results of test etc. I was told no, it was just a routine appointment to chat so I didn't attend.

At the consultation my parents were told of his kidney cancer and some problems with his lung – I think a lot to take in for elderly people. Further tests were booked, which we attended, this time it was a biopsy, although the staff were very kind they released my father 15 minutes after the procedure. Consequently, when we got him to the car he suffered a seizure - very scary - so had to be rushed back to the hospital and spent 6 hours in A&E.

We have since attended another appointment this time we thought to get the results and treatment, how wrong were we, we only saw a nurse, his notes had been lost and she knew nothing about his condition, diagnosis or treatment plan; she sent us for another test. This whole episode began on the 1st March and we are still in the dark as to how far the cancer has spread, if they will offer him treatment or what their plans are for his care.

I feel extremely angry about the delay and the fact that he has been told he has cancer but offered no treatment plan. It seems to me that once you are over 75 you don't matter anymore and they can fob you off with test after test. I feel like the whole experience has taken its toll on both my parents. Very worrying for all of us.

Needless to say from this experience I do not feel impressed with Princess Alexandra Hospital, Harlow or St Margrets Hospital Epping.