"Surgery for Miscarriage"
About: Dorset County Hospital / General surgery Dorset County Hospital General surgery DT1 2JY
Posted by Lostangel86 (as ),
Last year, we sadly had an ultrasound which showed our baby's heart had stopped beating. This was devasting news for us. The staff at the EPAC were amazing though, giving us time to just cry and to decide what to do next.
We received an appointment for surgery later that day for 2 days time.
However it was here the good care and appreciation for our situation stopped.
On admission to day surgery, the staff did not seem to have a clue as to why we were there and were very jolly in their 'so what can we do for you today ' welcome. Due to a complication, we were kept waiting for 6 hours for my surgery. This wait was then extended when I had to wait in the 'holding area' outside surgery with staff moaning that they didn't know about my allergy and that they had to prep a different theatre. Whilst I was waiting two members of staff came and looked at my notes whilst enquiring to each other why I was there. On discovering that I was waiting for surgery for a miscarriage proceeded to discuss bio-waste disposal bags. This is not something someone who was upset and nervous needed to hear, as it certainly wasn't how I originally saw my baby leaving the hospital.
After the surgery I received no proper discharge as the day surgery staff passed me off to another ward, who didn't seem to know what to do with me or what information to give me to let me go home. So after tea and biscuits I was forced to just leave, being told to phone in a couple of days if my discharge letter wasn't sent to me.
I did phone and was rudely told I wouldn't get one 'for what you had done anyway' trivialising an already distressing time. I still to this day have not received anything, and when visiting my doctor in December they were not aware of my miscarriage.
I feel that despite the amazing staff at the EPAC, our experience was completely let down by the surgery staff. We were made to feel like we were a hassle to the operating staff and there was no understanding shown of what we were going through.