"I felt very uncomfortable"

After waiting over 30 minutes, I met with the consultant who asked me some basic questions in a very matter of fact way. There was no warmth or kindness there which started to make me feel very uncomfortable.

I was then asked to get undressed ready for a vaginal examination. I was left for 15 minutes before he came back to examine me. While I was having the examination we decided that it was a good idea to also do a smear test as I was overdue. I have had smear tests before and therefore knew what to expect.

However, not only did it take about 5 minutes, but it was so very painful that it made me cry and also made me bleed. I was consequently in pain for 24 hours after, which I feel is unacceptable. During both of the examinations no lubricant was used at all.

Once I was dressed, we discussed the operation that he was going to carry out. Without going into every little comment that was said, I felt uncomfortable and the comments that were made have had a very negative impact on my life.

I had a baby 7 months ago, have a prolapse and therefore things in that area are not as they once were, however to be told what a 'mess' I am in that area and how unsightly it is, in my opinion, is unnecessary.

I was going to the consultant because of the pain that I am in, not because of how I looked after having a baby. Comments like 'you're not going to have a virginal vagina after the operation' when said in a patronising way are very upsetting.

I left the appointment very upset and had to call a family member before I drove home as I was too distressed. I went in to the appointment feeling very upset about the problem that I had, and had little confidence. I came out in even worse pain, felt disgusting and all my confidence has gone completely.