"miscarriage. really upsetting"
About: Hull Royal Infirmary / Gynaecology Hull Royal Infirmary Gynaecology HU3 2JZ
Posted by upset parent (as ),
2 years ago I was rushed to a+e at hull royal, I was 15 weeks pregnant and was bleeding heavily. I was seen immediatly and put in a side ward where I lay on the same blood soaked bed for 5 hours before I was properley dealt with. Eventually, after having numerous drips attached and the loss of conciousness, an emergency gynaecologist came, pulled my baby out of me and said 'There you go, you've miscarried'!
Later I was taken to the gynaecology ward where I spent 2 days, as a result of the blood loss I was so weak I could hardly walk but I was still left to take myself to the toilet and walk down the corridor for a bath. I was even left to walk down to the next floor to have an internal scan which my husband ended up carrying me as I wasnt allowed to have a wheelchair. The care of the staff on the gyno ward varied tremendously, you could tell the ones that were passionate about their job and those that were just there to get paid at the end of the month. The baby that I had just lost was never mentioned and as anyone who has been in this situation would know, you want to know about it. I was never asked if i wanted to see it. It was put in a sick pot and taken away.
After my stay I was waiting to be discharged and a nurse came in and practically threw a bereavement pack at me and asked me and my husband what we wanted to do with the 'product' (my baby). To this day I dont know where it is, it could be buried at chanterlands ave or cremated in the hospital incinerator; For all I know it could be in a hospital freezer somewhere.
Now 2 years on, I need to know where it is, I need to put my grief to rest. How do i find out where it is, could anyone help me?
Overall, the majority of the staff are excellent but I think they need to have a bit more compassion at times like this.