"Lack of support during a distressing procedure"
About: Royal Derby Hospital / Urology Royal Derby Hospital Urology DE22 3NE
Posted by patient turned carer (as ),
For the most part the care was good. However, not long after admission a nurse told me they needed to insert a catheter. In a way I was relieved because I was in a lot of pain. However I was also extremely scared. I asked the nurse if my fiancée could come in and hold my hand- her response was an incredulous "what, while we do it?" I felt embarrassed, but still desperate to have him present. I said to her "I'm scared" she responded "there is no need to be scared, I will be with you". At this point I felt too embarrassed to ask any more.
During the insertion the nurses didn't communicate what was happening at all, I was really scared but due to the level of pain I was in I didn't want to stop the procedure.
As a former victim of sexual abuse I found it traumatic, and have actually had nightmares since. I feel that my request should have been respected, or at the very least the nurses should have communicated with me during the procedure.