"Forced to go private?"

About: King's Mill Hospital / Gastroenterology Nottinghamshire County Teaching PCT Queen's Medical Centre / Gynaecology

(as the patient),

I first got pregant 6 years ago, it was unexpected but my partner and I decided that we wanted to keep the baby. Unfortunately, just a few weeks later I miscarried. I had an awful experience on a Saturday night in an emergency room. People who were drunk being seen before me. I was never formally told that I had miscarried. The doctor on duty at night was very good, but in the morning as I sat (obviously upset at what had happened) I was asked by a nurse 'what's the matter?' and the doctor asked me 'was it planned?'. As if that mattered! I had just lost my baby.

We got married 3 years ago and decided that our financial posisitions were better and that we would try and have a baby. Within weeks of starting, I conceived. Unfortunately, I miscarried again. I received care at a different hospital which was much better.

We were determined that we wanted a baby, so within three months I was pregnant. However, I miscarried a third time.

We waited and underwent some investigations to see if there were any medical reasons as to why I miscarried. All tests came out negative.

18 months on and we have been trying again. But we have been unsuccessful. My doctor refuses to send me to see a consultant because I am severely obese. He wants me to loose weight. Fine. But there are two people in my relationship. He suggested that an option would be to have Gastric banding. He has ignored my requests to be tested for coeliac disease because "if you had it you would be loosing weight rapidly" (not true). I'm currently on weight loss tablets. When I went to see him on Tuesday with an aim to be tested for coeliac disease and to tell him that I am depressed, after waiting 30minutes to be seen, he asked me what I wanted; told me that I wouldn't be eligible for NHS funding for obesity treatment. I couldn't bring myself to tell him that I was depressed. He just made it worse.

I'm fed up of being fobbed off. I pay my taxes- have done since I was 16. I have a good job, I'm intelligent, I don't want IVF or other treatments that involve creating embryos. And yet I'm left feeling that my only option is to save my money and have private treatment.

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