"Neglect"

Anything else?

I had our first baby at the beginning of March, the labour ward downstairs was fantastic and so were the staff in theatre. Both groups had a sense of humour and were friendly. However, when i arrived upstairs on the antenatal ward i was greeted by the complete opposite. Out of all the staff up there, there was only one midwife who was nice and helpful. I was left to it, first time mum and i wasn't shown where to get anything from to do my baby's nappy, i was wired up, had a blood pressure sleeve on (which they forgot i had so i took it off myself) and a kapither so i struggled to reach my baby to get her out of the crib. She was put in the crib in just a blanket and i couldn't change her till my husband came back in the morning, so she was in the crib all night without any clothes on as i wasn't offered any help. I was offered one cup of tea for my whole stay, i had to send my husband over to Aldi to stock up on drink as the midwives wanted to me to urinate so they could check it but without any liquids in me i was finding this rather difficult and actually got told off for not weeing much. I was told that i was going to be discharged and then when my husband asked when i could go he was told that i wasn't allowed to go home now with no reason, i was then discharged at 7am the next morning. I was told to get use to our daughter crying all the time because i was a mum now and then the midwife who said this to me stormed off leaving me sobbing on the bed with a crying newborn, the nice midwife (on the night shift) came in and helped me feed our daughter as i wasn't filling her and she had been crying constantly and trying to feed off me for 3 hours. I asked for some formula and my request was dismissed and i was made to feel like a bad mother for even asking until the nice midwife came in and she did what i requested. Don't even get me started on the food, i was offered one meal which resembled the plastic food i was bought when i was 6 years old for my toy kitchen. Revolting. A woman across the way from me was complaining about how she had been treated and was demanding to speak to a midwife in charge and i have heard nothing but bad things about the ward upstairs since having our daughter. I am so put off by my experience that we have decided when we have our next baby then we are going to travel from Derby centre to Nottingham and go to Notts City or QMC.