"Miscarriage at A&E"
About: Princess Alexandra Hospital (Harlow) Princess Alexandra Hospital (Harlow) Harlow CM20 1QX
Posted by Ana
I arrived at PAH bleeding and in pain at 9 weeks pregnancy, with no one to accompany me as husband was at home taking care of our 2 young children. I was initially seen quickly for blood test and then told they would give me painkillers as I was in great pain. I was asked to wait in a second waiting room until the doctor would come to see me. I sat for 2 hours, in great pain, both physical and emotional in front of all the other people waiting to see a doctor. As I was in the midst of having a miscarriage, another patient was aking me what time it was. No one came to update me, I eventually asked a nurse after 2 hours waiting, who said I was to see the Gynae doctor and as there is only one on duty, it could be a while. While being examined by the doctor, he said I had just passed tissue, which I didn't completely understand until I asked him if it was my fetus/ baby. He said yes. I asked to see it, which he did show me in a tissue. I wasn't offered options of whether I wanted to take the fetus with me or how the fetus would be disposed of and I was too upset to think rationally and ask these questions myself, which I now greatly regret and feel guilty about. It haunts me to think that my baby may just be discarded with general hospital waste and I regret not asking to have my baby go home with me to be respectfully buried in the garden. I had no support or counselling, was just sent home and told if pregnancy test still positive in 2 weeks, to go back to EPU. Feeling extremely sad, empty and disappointed, not just for my loss, but also lack of support and empathy from medical staff, even though they were friendly and nice when I spoke with them, just lacking that empathy for someone going through a very painful and difficult experience. Wish I could've miscarried in the privacy of my home instead, as at least no one would be watching and I would have had the time to think of what to do with my baby.